From Stewardship Volume 4

The Family Health Audit

12 questions. The home is where the steward's character is most accurately measured.

The First Ministry

Success that destroys the home is failure. Growth that robs the altar is not blessing.

Most entrepreneurs are far more honest about their business numbers than about the health of their home. The bank statement is examined weekly. The marriage is examined when it breaks.

This audit measures three areas: your marriage, your fatherhood, and your spiritual leadership of the home. Be honest enough that the results can actually help you.

A note for those without a current spouse or children: Adapt the questions to your situation — past relationships, future relationships, or your role with extended family or spiritual children. The principles apply across forms.

Each question is rated from 1 (Strongly Disagree) to 5 (Strongly Agree).

0 of 12 answered

Marriage

Your covenant ally — the most important earthly relationship

1. My spouse would say I am emotionally present and engaged at home, not just physically there.

Strongly DisagreeStrongly Agree

2. I have regular intentional conversations with my spouse beyond logistics — about feelings, dreams, faith, struggles.

NeverWeekly+

3. I honor my spouse's voice on major decisions — they have real input, not just notification.

I decide aloneTrue partnership

4. I speak well of my spouse — to them directly, and about them to others. I never criticize them publicly.

Often criticalAlways honoring

Fatherhood

Your investment in the next generation

5. I have regular one-on-one time with each child that is undistracted and intentional.

RarelyWeekly+

6. I am present at the moments that matter most to my children — games, performances, milestones.

Often missAlways there

7. My children would say they have heard me speak blessing over them, not just correction.

Mostly correctionMostly blessing

8. When I come home from work, I transition emotionally — I do not bring the weight of work into the family.

Bring it all homeLeave it outside

Spiritual Leadership

Your role as priest of the home

9. I lead my family spiritually — I pray with/over them, initiate spiritual conversations, set the tone.

AbdicatedActive leader

10. I pray for each family member by name regularly — not just in emergencies.

RarelyDaily

11. Our home follows the divine order — God > Family > Work — observable in how I actually spend time.

InvertedRight order

12. When I have failed at home, I have confessed it specifically — not just generally apologized.

NeverWhenever needed

Answer all 12 to see your results.

Family Health Score
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Your Three Areas

The Restoration

Volume 4 of STEWARDSHIP gives you the practical tools: the Doorway Blessing, the Covenant Meeting, the Spousal Veto, the Five Roles of the Priest, the Paternal Blessing, and the path to restoring lost years. The home can be rebuilt. Begin where you are weakest.

Read Volume 4: The Home
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